I can’t imagine how I’d deal with the loss of a child. I imagine that I’d simply fold right up into a tiny little box and let the world just walk on, not having the courage to deal with it anymore.

I wanted to write and tell you how strong you are, and how clear it is how much you GIVE to others. I didn’t quite know how to do that, because words don’t really mean a lot – especially from someone you don’t even know.

But I read someone else’s blog entry not long ago – who had realised that even when people don’t know what to say – even when they say the wrong things – if they reach out and try and touch you – you get a tiny little bit of reassurance. It’s better to try and offer support, than to just say nothing.

Like many have already said, the co-incidence of the dates makes it feel as if this was meant to be. Not that Jumby would replace Bug, or make you forget about him, or fill the hole that he left, but that surely bug would know Jumby needs your love in the way that he had. And he knows that when someone needs you, you put everything into it. You’ll never let him down.

Light a candle to remember Shale’s life, then blow it out to celebrate Jumby’s life. Because it’s not a betrayal to Shale to find joy on that day. Both lives should be remembered with joy.

I read it in Readers Digest, so it must be true and helpful.

With love, you don’t subtract/divide, you add/multiply.”

The love you all have for Jumby isn’t taken from Shale. It’s IN ADDITION.

Boundless love, the kind you have, isn’t OR. It’s AND.

Hugs on this significant day (a little late).