I haven’t written much about Jumby’s life before his arrival home with us for many reasons. The primary reason being the adoption has yet to be finalized due to the extreme sluggishness in which the wheels of bureacracy churn in these parts. The adoption officials in charge of stamping our adoption final and assigning Jumby with the Redneck surname are not keen on me publicizing some of the details of his past. So I’ve wisely held my tongue.
I will continue to keep his story under wraps until I have his birth certificate with his new name in my hot little hands because I can’t do anything to jeopardize his placement into our family fold. He’s already one of us and I don’t think I or my family could survive losing him.
Jumby didn’t have an easy life before he found his way to his forever home. His story is rather incredible and tragic, composed of the stuff that makes for an epic drama, made all the more incredible by the fact he survived and has since thrived.
But Jumby, my sweet new little man, is a hero. He’s my hero and a hero to everyone who knows the dark shadows that lie in his closet. He may not look like the hero Hollywood makes movies about or the hero legends are spun around and passed on for generations but he is a hero.
A blind, deaf, non-verbal, immobile real life representation of the true definition of heroism.
He even has his very own cape that velcros onto his dark blue pajamas. I made sure of that.
My little hero will never receive an award for his bravery, or have a street named in his honor. Heck, most people who see him won’t recognize the stoic grace he carries around with him every where he goes. But I do. I am his mother. Forever and always, Jumby is my little man.
My heart and my husband’s, and Fric and Frac’s heart’s as well, break every time we think about the trauma our Jumby has been forced to endure. As a mother, I find it hard not to spit fire and rage against the world, the people, who forced this path onto the boy who is now my son. I struggle to find the words to try and explain why such bad things happened whenever my older children ask me about it.
I can only tell them there is no such thing as fair in life.
My children have been forced to learn this lesson early on, with the sudden demise of their other brother. It saddens me that they can wisely nod their heads in acceptance. No child should have to learn that life has no boundaries, no fairness, and sometimes, sadly, no justice.
I can’t undo the damage that was inflicted on my son when he wasn’t my child. I can’t erase his pain or his suffering. There isn’t much I can do for this little boy other than to promise him a life filled with love, protection and safety for every breath his body holds now that he is a part of our family.
But this child, this boy who has seen hell and walked out the other side of it, riddled with scars from battles he never should have fought; he deserves more. Every child deserves more than what Fate has given him.
So when The Make A Wish Foundation offered to help Jumby’s dreams come true, you can bet the hairs on my chin I didn’t take more time than it takes to blink to agree.
It only seems fair after all, since Jumby made my dreams come true that I do what I can to help fulfill his.
On Friday, Jumby became an Official Wish Kid. Just like his big brother Shalebug did, years ago. Shalebug never got to use his wish; his time ran short before his dreams were able to come true.
But Jumby, my wee little hero-boy, will see his wish to fruition. It’s a small wish, not something significant or very meaningful to most, but to my child, it will make all the world of difference to him and remind him that wishes can come true, goodness does exist.
In a world where bad things happen all around us, to people too young to understand why, for children who live through greater hardships than most adults ever have to endure, the Make A Wish Foundation is there to give back to children the one thing life has often yanked away from them.
Hope.
The Make A Wish team has given my child the chance to dream like every child should be able to.
I can’t fix you Jumby, or erase the scars you bear on your body and soul. I can’t make you whole, the way you were once, but I can promise to be by your side as you walk your path and always help you chase your dreams.
Thank you Make A Wish Foundation, for helping me be able to do that for my child.
**To everyone who has ever donated and supported the Children’s Wish Foundation, I thank you as well. There are no words adequate enough to express what your kindness and charity provides to children like Jumby, to mothers like me. Thank you.**
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avasmommy
You are an amazing lady, Tanis. Jumby is lucky to have found you. Just as you are lucky to have found him.
Becca
awwww!!! this should have been posted in tear jerker. this is so sweet. it’s amazing how a little boy who I’ve never met, has made his way into my heart. bless him.
always home and uncool
And father’s like me.
Thing 1 got a week in DisneyWorld last year from the good folks at Make a Wish. It is a special organization for special kids. Thanks to those who support it … and don’t get pissed when our kids get to cut the line. Cheers.
Kim
My Maddy is a Wish Kid, too…and the gift that they provided for her has been amazing for her. Instead of a trip (which would have stressed her out!) they gave her a big-screen television. She watches it every. single. day. and gets really annoyed if we walk in between her and her sporting events. LOL
I think Make A Wish is an amazing charity, and the stories I’ve heard from other Wish families have been simply amazing.
I’m so glad Jumby will get to live his wish, and I so wish that Shalebug had been able to live his….
{{{hugs}}}
Beck
Oh, beautiful. I am so glad that he is getting a wish, and I hope that his life is full of many, many good things from this day on.
pgoodness
Oh, good, you guys finally decided on a wish?! So glad for you guy…wish that adoption would just be final already!
habanerogal
I hope you get him a great big fabulous dream but I can well imagine that everyday that he has spent as a part of your family has been the BEST dream ever ! Yes and this is up there with the good tearjerker stories.
TwoBusy
Beautiful.
nic @mybottlesup
oh lady…. you are the best thing that could happen to sweet jumby.
Aimee @ Ain't Yo Mama's Blog
You have such a heart-wrenching yet heart-warming story. If families like yours don’t inspire the rest of us, I’m not sure what could. I hope Jumby enjoys that well-deserved wish and carries it with him forever.
Pooba~
T~
I don’t know you, never met you, but I always feel like we share the same skin (us being mothers) … UNTIL you speak about Shalebug and Jumby…
I’m not worthy to lick the dust off your slippers…
AND I don’t think I could ever be the glorious strength you are…
Just know I love you…
m²
Grumble Girl
So wonderful… I’m adoring your super-hero boy. Sniff. Love!
just beth
I am so touched by this I had to comment but I don’t have words to give you. My heart is to full of this to limit it like that.
just… hugs. OK?
xo
b.
Issa
I’m so glad Jumby gets his wish. Can’t wait to hear about it.
Vicki
Gosh, I just love reading your blog. What a special person you and your children are! I can’t wait to read (for want of better words) the full story.
So happy Jumby gets his wish!
xx
Backpacking Dad
Kevin said it right: Never give any of these kids shit for cutting in line at Disneyworld.
PrincessJenn
You are an amazing lady. I think part of what I love with you is your ability to see past the bad to the good that is always there trying to peak through. Your kids are so lucky to have such a loving mom
Calamity Anne
You are truly an inspiration!!! Thanksgiving has true meaning when it’s filled with people like you!
Jennifer McKenzie
You’re awesome, Tanis. You know that.
Jenni
Jumby was so lucky to have found you. I can’t wait to hear about his wish!
Jennifer
We also got a Make A Wish trip to Disney World for our whole family and my parents got to go too because there was no way we could handle 4 kids(one with severe disabilities and leukemia). We didn’t know, of course, but it would be the last vacation we would take as a family. Three months later, Noah died, but we will ALWAYS have the Disney trip….our other kids remember sooo much about it and I could not believe the treatment we received. So many of the rides were handicapped accessable and Noah had a blast…even though he couldn’t see and was at a 6 month old cognitive level. We, as a family, were spoiled rotten and we should have been. Anyone with a child who has severe special needs should!! So, WHAT is Jumby’s wish??