Comments on: Let’s Talk About Sex

By: Jaelithe

Jaelithe — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:14:32 +0000

Oh, P.S. my FIVE-YEAR-OLD asked me what a virgin is a few weeks ago. So that was fun.

By: Jaelithe

Jaelithe — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:11:37 +0000

Okay, I know I am late to this party. But here is the deal: my mother was 17 when she gave birth to me. (She was already married when she got pregnant with me, actually, interestingly enough. She got married on her 17th birthday.)

So, I totally knew my mother had lost her virginity while still a teenager, because, otherwise, Hi, how would I exist? And she did in fact tell me, when I was 13 or so, that she had had sex even BEFORE she was married. And in fact before she met my dad. But she told me she thought it was really stupid that she’d forced herself to grow up so early, and that if she had it to do again, she would have waited longer.

She also took me to see my aunt give birth, twice. And had me watch as my little brother was born. And after my little brother was born, she used to make me change his diapers and wash his clothes and take care him all the time. And she would say, “Do you see what babies are like? Do you see how hard they are?” And then she would cackle like a supervillain.

So, YEAH. I did not have sex until I was in college. I gave up my virginity after MUCH deliberation, and made sure my first time was with a perfectly decent, responsible boy I knew very, very well.

And I used no less than three forms of contraceptive.

Got any pregnant friends around?

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 13:26:47 +0000

After writing all of that I just thought of a more mature response. (although I still appreciate the value of screaming and running) I think we’ve established a pattern of being open and honest about these things. I think the answer to their personal questions is that we continue to be open and honest. But THIS time we be open and honest about our discomfort with their question. And instead of telling them what they think they want to know we can tell them what they need to know. Or something like that…

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 13:19:04 +0000

You’ve already gotten a million comments on this but… I have also been candid with my now teenage daughter about sex. From about the time she was 8 and came home asking what parents did in bed that wasn’t sleeping that started with an “S” and ended in an “S”. (Oh wait she was 2 when she asked if getting married twice made you have two babies.) But for YEARS I would only get as far as the word “penis” and she would run screaming from the room. Now I wish that were true. She recently spent a few days puzzling out the meaning of “oral sex.” When she finally had it figured out (I was in college for g*dsake before I knew this.) she wanted to know if I had ever done such a thing. Whereupon I told her “My personal sex life is none of your business!!!” and ran screaming out of the room.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:18:44 +0000

I have always answered any questions my son has as honestly as I can. He is almost 15. But for that one I said nunnofyer dammbizness. So far he isn’t scarred by my bluntness.